Making Our Should's as must

One of the problem everyone faces is that of procrastination i.e we know that we should do a thing but we don't do it.Did you ever tried to figure out why it happens...
Suppose, you got an exam on 25' June and today's date is 5 June. So, you will think that we will study from tomorrow. Although from inside you know you must study but you don't do that. Now its 10 june, pain gets stronger you feel uneasy, but you say i will start from 13th June. Now, its 15th june, the pain gets even stronger, but you still don't pick up the book. Now its 22june, the pain is unbearable but you say from tomorrow i will study.Now its 24th june now you have to face it, now you got to study because the fear of failure, the pain of failure is greater than not picking up the book. Now you will study.. Now the should is converted into must....Now its a must to study,its not a should anymore.
Thats what happens in relationships, you hang in their even though their is little bit pain in it, you don't say anything to the partner. When the pain becomes unbearable you quit the relationship. Thats what happens in everything in life, you wanna loose the weight, you crrrrrrrrry out , o shit o shit, holygod i should loose weight, but
i don't get rid of this fuckin weight. Alhough you feel bad when your thunder thighs don't get into your favourite pair of jeans but thats not enough.... but you still keep on eating that garbage food like a rotten pig... unless one day doctor says yooooooou smelling pig, you got blooodsugar and mild heartattack. Now all horns go up and first thing on the next morning is you got to the gym and run like crazy. What happened, someone slapped your dirty ass, you felt so much pain that you said too yourself, man "we must change".

So the key is to make things must, whatever you want to achieve. It should be a must.
So how to turn a should into a must. First thing that you must understand is that we are nothing but emotions, everything that you and i do is because of emotions... you may say that i do thing because of selfinterest but that's bullshit when emotions comes into picture. If you can enough emotions than you can do anything. Suppose if i tell you to talk to stranger , intially you will be scared and you will think thousand times before talking to him or her. Try it once and see your body language. Your shoulders will be lymped, your heart will be pounding. You will be scared and tell you 95 people out of 100 won't even dare.

Now, i make a twist what if i tell you that, if you don't talk then your whole family will die of hunger, you will beg all your life and you won't get married. Now you just go to person and talk with him because its no more a should and its a must.

Now, let us makes some changes what if tell you that the person is your school mate, now what will do you will go and hug him and kiss him in the places people won't like too know. Now what has changed, your prespective has changed. The way you think about has changed.

So do what you want to with your life,make it a must. talk with the girl you always wanted to speak and propose her. Don't think about the rejection. If you want to acheive something make it must. Thats the way people achieve something in life.
Till next post bye and have great time.
I would love to see your comments.

The Power of Making Decision..

So many times i asked myself, what is it that really shapes our life.. or how can you achieve something in life... or what is the art of achievement?
When i ask people , why they are not able to achieve their goals..
And they come up with different answers..
They say..
uhh! you know jay, i tried but i gave up..
or they say i didn't have enough money..
i didn't have enough time..
i didn't got opportunity..
or they you know because of that son of a bitch, i lost it.....
But that's bullshit, that's holy crap...
The answer is, you did not made the decision..
tell me.. if you are creative enough, playful enough, passionate enough...
you will make it happen.. you will go through firewalls
I have seen people with no backgrounds, with no money, who are mentally, physically and
spiritually abused achieve something incredible..
when you ask them, what really made difference.
They would say, i made the decision and i stood by it.
Like Lance Armstrong, here is guy who got testicular cancer.. he got the cancer in his lungs, in his guts... he did not win any tour de france before he got cancer.. everyone thinks he would die..
he comes out of cancer. He goes onto win seven Tour DE France seven times because he is more strong physiologically, he is mentally stronger and he stood by what he believes...
That's what really makes the difference.
SO know what you want, be very precise and write it down. Be very very clear about your goals in life. And once you make the difference that make a decision and stand by it. If it is not working
than change your approach.

Life is like a heart.

Lifes more like a dance floor where
you got to make the right moves.
Life is like a box full of chocolate,
and you got to pick the right one.
Life is like a icecream,
you have to lick it before it melts,
Lifes is like a ocean wave,
you have to jump before it goes away.
Lifes is like a stage,
you have to play your part.
Lifes is like a song,
you have to sing it.
Lifes is like a notepad,
you have to make your own story.
Lifes is like a dream,
you have to Live it.
Lifes is like a quest,
you have to find it.
Lifes is like a girl knocking your door,
you have to love it.
Lifes is a school,
you have to learn it.
Lifes like a valley,
you have to cross it.
But Lifes more like your heart,
it stops pounding if you cease to dare.
Lifes more like your heart,
it listens to its own drummer.
yeah life is mor like heart.

I want to be

I don't want to be better,
I don't want to be the best,
I want to the greatest.
I don't want to run,
I don't want to ride,
I want to fly.
I don't want to read,
I don't want to write,
I want to learn.
I don't want to be a sparkle.
I don't want to be a flame,
I want to be the sun.
I don't want to be a trail.
I don't want to be a legend,
I want to be the an epic.
I don't want to be a blowing air.
I don't want to be a gust of wind,
I want to be the thunderstorm.
I don't want to be a shade.
I don't want to be a shelter,
I want to be the sky.
I don't want cheers.
I don't want laughter,
I want to pain.
But i can't be greatest without being best ,
best without being better.
So to be better i have to work,
To be best i have to work hard,
And to be the greatest i have to love to suffer.

YOU AND I

I wrote this a couple of years of ago, I don't know whether you will like it. But this ones is very close to me. I hope you will like it. Its a conversation between me my friend and me.

One day my friend said No I can't,
i said yes you can.
Hes said He is sleeping,
I said yes he is dreaming.
He said everything is mortal,
I said thing is mortal,
thoughts are immortal,
He said water is draining from sky,
I said yes its raining,
He said here we are alone,
I said yes we are in peace,
He said I can't do it ,its improbable,
I said it just looks improbable but after some time it will in inevitable,
He said how can i do it,
I said by Hard work and believing in it.
He said why waste time in hard work,
I said it the ultimate cost of success,
He said isn't there any other way,
I said if you can get light without burning oil,
If you reach the peak without climbing the mountain,
If baby can walk without falling down,
If the mighty one's can achieve greatness without suffering.
Then my friend there definitely would have been another way.
He said why there is suffering in the path of success.
I said tell me what separates a stone from a diamond.
He said of course the cost,
I said No , The difference is in effort.
He said I can't understand,
I said look dear one, To get a diamond man goes beneath the earth,
stakes his life, digs millions of tonnes of soil. To just get a small piece
of diamond.
So there never will be a great victory without great agony. because agony and ecstasy are mingled together like day with night and darkness with light.
He said but there is agony,
I said to separate the successful from unsuccessful.
He said but how,
I said agony tests the character of man,
agony is like a pure fire which moulds the gold into proper shape.
It lets the man know he is capable off.
He said OK I will work hard but I don't have faith,
I sad then trust on God.
He said but I don't believe in god,
He said that's why you do not believe in yourself.
He said will you explain who god is,
I said God is love and love is god.
He said How love and believe are mingled together,
I said because In love you believe in whom you love and
In Believing you love whom you believe.
and in all you find happiness in pain and tears in cheer's.
He said I want to know what joy is,
I said If you want to know joy,
then see it in child's face or look it in the glittering eyes of your dog.
He said yes but where from they get it,
I said from treasury of God.
He siad how can I get it,
I said simply start loving everything.
He said again we are back to love,
I said yes because it is what by which men live by.
He said how can you say that men live myt love,
I said because everything that we do is at some point is attached to love.
He said I think I all know This,
I said Yes I know all this.
But there is difference in knowing the path and walking the path.
And we all make choices which makes the difference.
He said finally tell me how can decide between good and evil,
I said If you will be truthful to that inner voice and can say that after watching this
god will be please and will be proud to say , He is my son. Then you are correct.

He said , You know everything and i know nothing,
I said No my dear lovely friend,
How can you say that you know nothing, If it was such then
from where come all this spiritual question. Because there
lives in you an undiscovered soul, There lives unilluminated lamp,
there lives an eager soul ready to leave its mark on sand of time.
So that humankind follow it. And
Question who the great one was?

Our Mistakes and fears.

If you read this, please forgive me.

Last night i had the most beautiful dream of my life. I saw myself on lush green grass, air was disturbing the grass in all directions. The sun was shining bright. Everything seemed very beautiful, very pleasant. The air was filled with fragrance and i knew i am at peace. And then i saw myself in the laps of god. I said to God that all my life i looked for love and understanding. A deep need for care. I lost people who cared for me. I can't live alone all my life. I said to god i am in deep pain. Then he said " why do you fear my son, He said you will receive everything that you need,
you will receive everything that you lost. But have faith."
When he said that all my frustration went away. I felt better.
Sometime men do such thing that are never expected from them maybe because of frustration, or for a sense of belonging, maybe because of fear of loneliness. But Men are humans too.
They too fall down, they too stumble. It is not falling down but its in the standing up all over again after falling down lies our strength. Sometimes we don't want to hurt, its not our intention.

What Love means

In my life I found that ,
answers to simple questions are most difficult,
And for every difficult question there is a simple answer.
Love can be as simple making someone smile with a simple gesture or
it can be sacrificing your whole life for a person.
But if you look carefully, love is doing something for other person.
So it is selfless act in which there is no profit, no loss.
You do it just because you want to do it.
Sometime back my friend asked me.......
what is love?
And i wrote these lines......
" I asked sky and earth,
oceans and mountain,
what is love, they said nothing,
I asked trees and flowers,
and they said nothing..
I asked moon and stars,
they too said nothing..
then i sat beside the sea for days and weeks,
and then i realized that,
love is like a ocean
passionate at the surface but peaceful and silent in depths,
its like sky infinite and endless,
its like earth that never complains and endures everything,
its like mountain which has valleys and peaks,
its like trees and flowers always giving never expecting,
its like moon and stars that lightens darkness with beauty and light,
and in all of them i just saw your image.....
and i thought Yeah that's what love is...."