I , God and our road to the success.

Do You Know who you are?

2009-06-10T22:24:00.000-07:00

Someday ago i visited my native place, and i was quite happy with the surrounding.The place was surrounded by green trees, their was greenery every where, even the temperature was quite soothing. I loved the noise made by birds in morning and loved to sit by the riverside in the evening. At last i got rid of the hustle and bustle of city which is so agonizing.
There i had an intresting conversation with my uncle.
I asked him, "According to you what is chief reson behind all miseries, why is that some people try to make a habbit but they fail again and again.And then they give up"
He gave me long stair and cleared his throat and said,
"this old fella knows, a couple of things about life and will try to share it with you."
he kept his hand on my shoulder and then continued,
"Suppose you throw a stone on a very calm water, what happens.. it will generate waves by its side.Now if you you do the same thing in a wild ocean even though you throw twin towers you won't see anything.Because its so wild that you wont notice a thing." We humans are so much distracted by outer world that we forgot our inner world.We think that the happiness is derived from outer world, so we spends hours on phone, we chat endlessly, we go shopping, we do every conceivable thing to make our self happy but that happiness is short lived. And then we ask our self why don't feel happy, I got everything but i am missing something within. This is the chief reason behind most of the broken relationships where people initially feel very happy
together, they are on cloud nine, they spend hours and days together. They don't give time to themselves and after sometime they just feel themselves overwhelmed.
And this leads to broken hearts.
SO i asked him then "what we should do",
He just smiled and got up and i followed him, we started towards the river bank,then he said,
"All our frustrations and worries of life arise because somewhere we forgot our trueself that is god like. We have thrown ourself so much in the oterworld
that we hardly know what it means to live in peace. We are so much in a race to acquire money that we have started to beileve that comfort is happiness.
We are so much surrounded by sexuality and vulgarity in our society that we have forgotten what it means to be pure and godlike. Our minds are choked by contant fear of
disomforts and losing something in life. We are so much attached to outer beauty that we lost our inner beauty."
Then he looked towards the sky and i could sense that he was overwhelmed by emotions,
"" He continued, All things come from an empty place and a deep silence. We you want to know the truth then you goto go back to that empty place with in you.
You have to go back to the place where you belong. You goto feel the silence that lies within. Its like when the surface of a lake is still then you can see
what lies at the bottom."
Then i quickly if thats the case then why don't people do that,
the answer is simply he replied" Our mind is like a monkey which cannot sit at one place, it will keep on jumping from one branch to another.
and people find it difficult to control it. So they always take the easy way out".
But how can silence would help me.
Then as if something enterd his body, he said with wild uproar "Silence gives the soul the strength to overcome every obstacle.
Self Realisation is the way towards achieving everything in life. Then you are no longer disturbed by the happines and sadness because you know that
your true self is above it. You realise that there is calm buddha inside it. You will know that the god you were always looking for was deep inside you.
But to see them you have to clear your eyes which are filled with dirt of money and these worldy relationship."
And he ended with a line that i will always remember "Give up everything to realise your true self and in the end when you realise it you won't need anything,
when you don't need anything this world will offer you everything because only a king can have everything not a beggar you is begging for a penny."

I was really astonished with his understanding and i gave him a big hug. And that we wolfed down the food and and i had the most peaceful sleep in the
recent time.And all my journey back i was thinking about his thoughts. I hope that we had furher discussion on that. Till that time GooDBYE.

ASK AND YOU WILL RECEIVE

2009-05-20T03:17:00.000-07:00

A very interesting incident took place a couple of weeks ago, I was traveling from office to back home. It was quite late around 11 o'clock. SO i just thought that, i should just sit down for a couple of minutes on walkers street. I was just thinking about others things, i saw a man coming towards me. He was wearing ragged clothes, he has not shaved for months and he was walking as though he was drunk. He came towards me and i thought, Horseshit, this man will beg for some money. And most of the time what you focus on tends to happen. He said,Sir "can you give one rupee just one rupee, i only need one rupee". I thought this man who is in 50's is begging me for money and i am in my twenties earning a nice amount. It made me curious about how this man is behaving. Sometime back i heard a tony Robbins tape where he said, if you don't keep enough money in pocket, then you have a bad psychology. So i always make a point that keep five rupees or ten rupee notes in between hundred rupee bill.
So what i did was i opened wallet, i made it a point that he sees my wallet and the money inside it. Then i took the one rupee coin. But before giving him i said, " Sir, Life will give what you ask, so ask carefully." Then i gave him the money.
A very interesting thing happened, he looked at money then at my wallet then at my face, again looked at money then on wallet and then on my face, coin --- wallet -- my face. And then he said, "You are weird".
So what i want to say is, Life gives us back what we ask for. We always say" I want money". Then life says, take the dollar you son of a bitch and go away. Be very precise how much money do you want. Be very precise what kind of person you want to be. Don't be like , you know i want to do something great with my life but i don't know what to do.
Get very clear about what you want to have. And then decide what you will give in return because their are no free lunch.
This is first step towards success.
This is article is due the courtesy of Tony Robbins.

Making Our Should's as must

2009-05-15T03:19:00.000-07:00

One of the problem everyone faces is that of procrastination i.e we know that we should do a thing but we don't do it.Did you ever tried to figure out why it happens...
Suppose, you got an exam on 25' June and today's date is 5 June. So, you will think that we will study from tomorrow. Although from inside you know you must study but you don't do that. Now its 10 june, pain gets stronger you feel uneasy, but you say i will start from 13th June. Now, its 15th june, the pain gets even stronger, but you still don't pick up the book. Now its 22june, the pain is unbearable but you say from tomorrow i will study.Now its 24th june now you have to face it, now you got to study because the fear of failure, the pain of failure is greater than not picking up the book. Now you will study.. Now the should is converted into must....Now its a must to study,its not a should anymore.
Thats what happens in relationships, you hang in their even though their is little bit pain in it, you don't say anything to the partner. When the pain becomes unbearable you quit the relationship. Thats what happens in everything in life, you wanna loose the weight, you crrrrrrrrry out , o shit o shit, holygod i should loose weight, but
i don't get rid of this fuckin weight. Alhough you feel bad when your thunder thighs don't get into your favourite pair of jeans but thats not enough.... but you still keep on eating that garbage food like a rotten pig... unless one day doctor says yooooooou smelling pig, you got blooodsugar and mild heartattack. Now all horns go up and first thing on the next morning is you got to the gym and run like crazy. What happened, someone slapped your dirty ass, you felt so much pain that you said too yourself, man "we must change".

So the key is to make things must, whatever you want to achieve. It should be a must.
So how to turn a should into a must. First thing that you must understand is that we are nothing but emotions, everything that you and i do is because of emotions... you may say that i do thing because of selfinterest but that's bullshit when emotions comes into picture. If you can enough emotions than you can do anything. Suppose if i tell you to talk to stranger , intially you will be scared and you will think thousand times before talking to him or her. Try it once and see your body language. Your shoulders will be lymped, your heart will be pounding. You will be scared and tell you 95 people out of 100 won't even dare.

Now, i make a twist what if i tell you that, if you don't talk then your whole family will die of hunger, you will beg all your life and you won't get married. Now you just go to person and talk with him because its no more a should and its a must.

Now, let us makes some changes what if tell you that the person is your school mate, now what will do you will go and hug him and kiss him in the places people won't like too know. Now what has changed, your prespective has changed. The way you think about has changed.

So do what you want to with your life,make it a must. talk with the girl you always wanted to speak and propose her. Don't think about the rejection. If you want to acheive something make it must. Thats the way people achieve something in life.
Till next post bye and have great time.
I would love to see your comments.

The Power of Making Decision..

2009-04-21T21:21:00.000-07:00

So many times i asked myself, what is it that really shapes our life.. or how can you achieve something in life... or what is the art of achievement?
When i ask people , why they are not able to achieve their goals..
And they come up with different answers..
They say..
uhh! you know jay, i tried but i gave up..
or they say i didn't have enough money..
i didn't have enough time..
i didn't got opportunity..
or they you know because of that son of a bitch, i lost it.....
But that's bullshit, that's holy crap...
The answer is, you did not made the decision..
tell me.. if you are creative enough, playful enough, passionate enough...
you will make it happen.. you will go through firewalls
I have seen people with no backgrounds, with no money, who are mentally, physically and
spiritually abused achieve something incredible..
when you ask them, what really made difference.
They would say, i made the decision and i stood by it.
Like Lance Armstrong, here is guy who got testicular cancer.. he got the cancer in his lungs, in his guts... he did not win any tour de france before he got cancer.. everyone thinks he would die..
he comes out of cancer. He goes onto win seven Tour DE France seven times because he is more strong physiologically, he is mentally stronger and he stood by what he believes...
That's what really makes the difference.
SO know what you want, be very precise and write it down. Be very very clear about your goals in life. And once you make the difference that make a decision and stand by it. If it is not working
than change your approach.

Life is like a heart.

2009-04-12T23:32:00.000-07:00

Lifes more like a dance floor where
you got to make the right moves.
Life is like a box full of chocolate,
and you got to pick the right one.
Life is like a icecream,
you have to lick it before it melts,
Lifes is like a ocean wave,
you have to jump before it goes away.
Lifes is like a stage,
you have to play your part.
Lifes is like a song,
you have to sing it.
Lifes is like a notepad,
you have to make your own story.
Lifes is like a dream,
you have to Live it.
Lifes is like a quest,
you have to find it.
Lifes is like a girl knocking your door,
you have to love it.
Lifes is a school,
you have to learn it.
Lifes like a valley,
you have to cross it.
But Lifes more like your heart,
it stops pounding if you cease to dare.
Lifes more like your heart,
it listens to its own drummer.
yeah life is mor like heart.

I want to be

2009-04-02T21:41:00.000-07:00

I don't want to be better,
I don't want to be the best,
I want to the greatest.
I don't want to run,
I don't want to ride,
I want to fly.
I don't want to read,
I don't want to write,
I want to learn.
I don't want to be a sparkle.
I don't want to be a flame,
I want to be the sun.
I don't want to be a trail.
I don't want to be a legend,
I want to be the an epic.
I don't want to be a blowing air.
I don't want to be a gust of wind,
I want to be the thunderstorm.
I don't want to be a shade.
I don't want to be a shelter,
I want to be the sky.
I don't want cheers.
I don't want laughter,
I want to pain.
But i can't be greatest without being best ,
best without being better.
So to be better i have to work,
To be best i have to work hard,
And to be the greatest i have to love to suffer.

YOU AND I

2009-04-02T21:02:00.000-07:00

I wrote this a couple of years of ago, I don't know whether you will like it. But this ones is very close to me. I hope you will like it. Its a conversation between me my friend and me.

One day my friend said No I can't,
i said yes you can.
Hes said He is sleeping,
I said yes he is dreaming.
He said everything is mortal,
I said thing is mortal,
thoughts are immortal,
He said water is draining from sky,
I said yes its raining,
He said here we are alone,
I said yes we are in peace,
He said I can't do it ,its improbable,
I said it just looks improbable but after some time it will in inevitable,
He said how can i do it,
I said by Hard work and believing in it.
He said why waste time in hard work,
I said it the ultimate cost of success,
He said isn't there any other way,
I said if you can get light without burning oil,
If you reach the peak without climbing the mountain,
If baby can walk without falling down,
If the mighty one's can achieve greatness without suffering.
Then my friend there definitely would have been another way.
He said why there is suffering in the path of success.
I said tell me what separates a stone from a diamond.
He said of course the cost,
I said No , The difference is in effort.
He said I can't understand,
I said look dear one, To get a diamond man goes beneath the earth,
stakes his life, digs millions of tonnes of soil. To just get a small piece
of diamond.
So there never will be a great victory without great agony. because agony and ecstasy are mingled together like day with night and darkness with light.
He said but there is agony,
I said to separate the successful from unsuccessful.
He said but how,
I said agony tests the character of man,
agony is like a pure fire which moulds the gold into proper shape.
It lets the man know he is capable off.
He said OK I will work hard but I don't have faith,
I sad then trust on God.
He said but I don't believe in god,
He said that's why you do not believe in yourself.
He said will you explain who god is,
I said God is love and love is god.
He said How love and believe are mingled together,
I said because In love you believe in whom you love and
In Believing you love whom you believe.
and in all you find happiness in pain and tears in cheer's.
He said I want to know what joy is,
I said If you want to know joy,
then see it in child's face or look it in the glittering eyes of your dog.
He said yes but where from they get it,
I said from treasury of God.
He siad how can I get it,
I said simply start loving everything.
He said again we are back to love,
I said yes because it is what by which men live by.
He said how can you say that men live myt love,
I said because everything that we do is at some point is attached to love.
He said I think I all know This,
I said Yes I know all this.
But there is difference in knowing the path and walking the path.
And we all make choices which makes the difference.
He said finally tell me how can decide between good and evil,
I said If you will be truthful to that inner voice and can say that after watching this
god will be please and will be proud to say , He is my son. Then you are correct.

He said , You know everything and i know nothing,
I said No my dear lovely friend,
How can you say that you know nothing, If it was such then
from where come all this spiritual question. Because there
lives in you an undiscovered soul, There lives unilluminated lamp,
there lives an eager soul ready to leave its mark on sand of time.
So that humankind follow it. And
Question who the great one was?

Our Mistakes and fears.

2009-03-29T21:18:00.000-07:00

If you read this, please forgive me.

Last night i had the most beautiful dream of my life. I saw myself on lush green grass, air was disturbing the grass in all directions. The sun was shining bright. Everything seemed very beautiful, very pleasant. The air was filled with fragrance and i knew i am at peace. And then i saw myself in the laps of god. I said to God that all my life i looked for love and understanding. A deep need for care. I lost people who cared for me. I can't live alone all my life. I said to god i am in deep pain. Then he said " why do you fear my son, He said you will receive everything that you need,
you will receive everything that you lost. But have faith."
When he said that all my frustration went away. I felt better.
Sometime men do such thing that are never expected from them maybe because of frustration, or for a sense of belonging, maybe because of fear of loneliness. But Men are humans too.
They too fall down, they too stumble. It is not falling down but its in the standing up all over again after falling down lies our strength. Sometimes we don't want to hurt, its not our intention.

What Love means

2009-03-25T21:08:00.000-07:00

In my life I found that ,
answers to simple questions are most difficult,
And for every difficult question there is a simple answer.
Love can be as simple making someone smile with a simple gesture or
it can be sacrificing your whole life for a person.
But if you look carefully, love is doing something for other person.
So it is selfless act in which there is no profit, no loss.
You do it just because you want to do it.
Sometime back my friend asked me.......
what is love?
And i wrote these lines......
" I asked sky and earth,
oceans and mountain,
what is love, they said nothing,
I asked trees and flowers,
and they said nothing..
I asked moon and stars,
they too said nothing..
then i sat beside the sea for days and weeks,
and then i realized that,
love is like a ocean
passionate at the surface but peaceful and silent in depths,
its like sky infinite and endless,
its like earth that never complains and endures everything,
its like mountain which has valleys and peaks,
its like trees and flowers always giving never expecting,
its like moon and stars that lightens darkness with beauty and light,
and in all of them i just saw your image.....
and i thought Yeah that's what love is...."

The Secret Behind Winning.

2008-11-27T01:59:00.000-08:00

" Everything that is,was and is going to be was first perceived in the imagination of men.If you want anything ask,imagine and work for it. And you will achieve it."

If i ask you, what do you want you will probably say thirty thousand per month job, a nice car, good apartment and beautiful wife. My question is why not a billion dollars, a castle, Angelina Jolie as girlfriend. Why not, you can become billionaire in your twenties. Why don't you ask?
In life whatever you want whether it is money,girlfriend,house, a new job whatever you want you want. You will have everything that you need, you just go to follow some universal laws. If you look at universe it works in a effortless manner. Winter follows summer, trees automatically shed there leaves, sun goes down early in winter.Birds leave their nest early in the morning. An Elephant does not tries to grow big. It just is. Everything works fine. If the bone of an animal brakes down it heals automatically , no medicines are required. But people don't observe that.
You might be thinking that I sounding like a spiritual freak, But let me tell you that I have studied the life of hundreds of people, and the common thing is that each of them had a burning desire to succeed , a deep desire to be a successful man. They knew exactly what they want. The problem with most of the people is know exactly what they don't want. And the Universe says,

" Your wish is my command".
The moment you get out of your bed , what you grumble,
you say to yourself , "bullshit, I got to go the office, see that stupid boss, I don't look good". You complain about everything, you say to yourself that i am gone be late for the office.
And the universe says ," Your wish is my command". And you get exactly what you want,
you get late for your office, you meet people like you , who are complaining,grumbling about what's not working.

" You are like a giant magnet that is attracting everything in yo0ur life whether it is the job, your friends, bad luck everything."

We people are nothing but energy, everything in the cosmos is energy. Your energy will attract anything that you want, whether it is bad or good. Universe will not judge it will just give you what you want.

So the question is How to get what you want?
There are three steps.

1. Ask or Knock.

2. Answer.

3. Act as if you got it.

Suppose, I find a girl in my college very beautiful, and i want her to be my girlfriend. So I have to ask the universe. You have to write it down , see it daily before going to sleep and after waking up. And then universe will answer by providing me with unexpected events that are helpful. Universe will answer that's for sure.

Now most people will say , you know what ," Stupid Jay, I asked so many times but i never got it. or they will say, F# $c& you , This stuff doesn't works." What they do is, they don't follow the last step.

The last step is the step where magic works, You have you imagine how it feels when you achieve it. You have to make it so real that it feels like that you already have that what you want. Like you have to imagine that your dating the girl, how it will feel when you touch her hand. How both you will look together. How it will feel when you sit down near the sea shore.
You have to keep on doing that until it becomes real for you.

What it means to be a hero

2008-11-24T04:21:00.001-08:00

To Heroes,
Sometimes when i see a great movie or a great book, and I look back
at what made them great. I think what made them great was the ability to make hard decision not based on their personal interest but which helps general public. And for making hard decisions sometimes you have to loose the most precious thing that you have it might be your family , your love or your own life.
And fears surrounds you because you don't want to let it go.
But these great heroes they know that there is something divine in us,
that someone is watching us(GOD). And that someone wants us to make the right decision. Common man moves backward but heroes embrace it as a gift. They know it will be very painful. And they know that in pain there is growth of our soul.

With Love,
From Jay.

My Silent Prayer

2008-11-24T04:19:00.001-08:00

So what if i am alone, So what it seems very dark, So what I cant see the path, So what there's no hope, So what the journey seems very long, I know you are there, to take care of wounds, to take care of pains. So what everyone says you will never win, So what no one wants to hear you, So what no one Understands you, So what everyone thinks you are looser, I know that walking a different trail will make others insecure, and i know that you want to test me my father, because you walked on this path. So father give me the strength, To do the things my heart says i should do, To carry on when it seems it can't be done, To bring love in whatever i pursue, To be peaceful when everything is going wrong, To be humble when everything is going in favor, Finally my father, I thank you for everything you gave to me

Triumph and Failure

2008-11-24T04:15:00.000-08:00

Today as i was going for the gym, it was a beautiful morning , sun was shining, cool breeze was following.Drops of water were shining on grass blades as if they were pieces of crystal. A thought suddenly struck my mind. I was worrying about bad stomach and that i am not going at right speed for the Mr. India contest. I was really worried what to do. Then suddenly I remembered the lines of Quest

" If you can treat triumph and disaster just the same and still go on trying . Then everything in this world is yours and what's more you will be a man my son".

I thought about it , its meaning is if you are not affected by failure and victory. If you can try in spite of several failures that is true victory.
But I wondered how's that possible,
Then a little story came into my mind.
It was about a boy who wanted to wisest man. It went to a Guru in Himalayas who was a god like person who knew everything. He asked him how can i become wise.
Boy said " I will work for ten hours a day to be wise than how many years it will take".
Wise man said " five years".
Than boy said " I would work for fifteen hours "
Wise man said " Ten years".
Than boy said " I would work for twenty hours "
Wise man said " twenty years".
Than boy said " I would work for twenty hours i will not sleep , i
won't do anything else "
Wise man said " thirty years".
amazed by the reply boy said i increasing the hours and you
are increasing the years why.
Wise man said " Because as long as you keep one eye on the result
, it would take you more time. As long as you are attached with the result. You will find it difficult to achieve. Let go the attachment. And then will attain everything".
So I thought how it can help me in present situation.
I thought may be i ma just forcing my body to look as my mind wants. And i wanted immediate results. And whenever you force anything than it will have equal and opposite reaction. So i should
relax and let go how things how they should be and enjoy the things a s they are. I am not saying that i will let go my desire of making a great body. But i will let go my attachment to the result.
And it immediately brought me peace.
Have a great day.

Bye bye.

Three Principals For Achieving anything in Life

2008-11-24T04:10:00.000-08:00

Today, As i was going about my daily business, I got an opportunity
to listen to the tapes of Anthony robins.It was a beautiful tape.
And i am going to share the principles with you.
Basically, There are three principles which you should follow
to achieve anything in life.

The First Principle says, You should focus on what you want.
Then you would say that , OO! yes I focus a lot, I focus that I am
fat, and I should loose weight. Its like when you are driving a car and you are
focusing that you are not going hit the pole by the roadside, then unknowingly you
are focusing on pole and you are going to hit . So the best option would be to look
at the road not towards the pole.
Focus, Concentrate, brood in the silence that what it is that you absolutely want in life.
For ex: I will have 18 inch bicep, 47 inch chest, my weight will be 80 kg.
Visualize your body, imagine it, Feel how wonderful you will look.
Be precise what you want. Don't think about what you don't want, but focus
on what you want. When you ask most of the people they will tell you what they
don't want instead of they want. Thats the key , "Know what you want".
And then visualize it. Once you start doing that ,when you wake up, Your
goals will attract you , you don't have to push. You will be making decisions
on what you want whereas previously you were making decision randomly.
Thats the key difference.

The second principle says " You should get the best tools for achieving your
goal, if you do that you don't have to reinvent the wheel".
You should look at the people who made it big in your chosen endeavor.
If you that then you don't have to start from scratch you will standing on the
shoulders of genius. This will help you in making quick progress.
Get the best teacher, get the best tools. Its like you have a beautiful crystal,
and you have to chisel it to make a beautiful peace. You need the best tool
to accomplish it. If you don't do it. Then you have to by trial and error method,
which could be quite painful.

The third principle is where most people fail.
It is about aligning yourself towards your goals.
Most of as go through life, fighting with ourself.
For ex: I want that , I should have a partner in life but i am not ready to make
commitments, i am not ready to give her enough time.
Or its like i want to make million dollars but i want free time, i need comfort.
When this happens we get divided into two parts both going in opposite in direction.
That leaves as frustrated. Take another case , You want to be famous model but you scared to
death that if you fail. So you will not be able to give yourself completely . So we decide
what we absolutely want from life. what is that that absolutely committed to. People die for
what they are absolutely committed to. And don't ever let other people disturb you.

God bless You.
Keep smiling.

Darkness And Light.

2008-11-24T04:07:00.000-08:00

A teacher kept on asking to a student, what is your deepest fear, but student didn't knew the answer, one day finally he got the answer. "Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness That most frightens us. We ask ourselves Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small Does not serve the world. There's nothing enlightened about shrinking So that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, As children do. We were born to make manifest The glory of God that is within us." It's not just in some of us; It's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, We unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we're liberated from our own fear, Our presence automatically liberates others.

What Natures tries us to teach us.

2008-11-24T03:52:00.000-08:00

When you look at nature it teaches you alot. Every thing is in rthyem, Summer is followed by rainy season. Darkness is followed by light. when its winter the sun goes down early, there is fog in the morning, In summer birds leave their nest early, its hot . Similarly, In life there are seasons, seasons of happiness, seasons of sadness. But nothing is permanent. This we cease to recognize, and we start complainig that why we it happens with.As soon as we start to complain the pain increases and we start to feel more empty. Then what we should do ?. The answer is simple that you should do what nature does. You should silently accept it . Someone said in every adversity there are seeds of opportutunity. You should try to find a solution out of a problem to make you a better person.